Trauma Healing Parenting Certification
An attachment-based, child focused framework for professionals supporting families in high-conflict separation
When traditional co-parenting advice causes more harm than help
If you work with parents navigating high-conflict separation, post-separation abuse, or ongoing coercive dynamics, you’ve likely noticed something important:
Not all families benefit from traditional co-parenting models.
For children living in chronic stress or relational trauma, well-intentioned advice focused on cooperation, compromise, or fairness can unintentionally:
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overwhelm a child’s nervous system
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ignore attachment injuries
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place unrealistic expectations on protective parents
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increase risk during transitions and contact
This certification was created to address that gap.
A certification designed to shift the lens - from parent-focused
to child-focused
Most professional frameworks in separation and divorce center adult needs:
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adult rights
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adult perspectives
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adult regulation
This program teaches you how to consistently anchor your work in:
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the child’s attachment needs
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nervous system capacity
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developmental stage
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lived experience of conflict and trauma
The guiding question shifts from:
“How do I support this parent?”
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“What does this child need — and how do we support the parent to provide it?”
But I'm not a parenting coach...
Many divorce coaches hesitate when they hear the word parenting
— and that makes sense.
Most professionals don’t set out to coach parenting.
And yet, parenting guidance is already embedded in the work:
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how parents respond to transitions
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how children’s behavior is interpreted
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how parents talk about the other parent
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how regulation, boundaries, and repair are handled
This certification does not ask you to:
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adopt a prescriptive parenting model
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tell parents “how to parent”
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work outside your professional scope
Instead, it provides a shared, attachment-based foundation so your guidance is informed by:
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trauma science (not personal parenting styles)
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child development (not intuition alone)
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ethical, child-protective decision-making
Who this certification is for...
This program is designed for professionals who:
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work with high-conflict or complex separation/divorce cases
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support parents impacted by trauma, toxic stress, or post-separation abuse
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encounter resist–refuse dynamics, alignment, or sudden shifts in parent-child relationships
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want stronger case formulation and clearer boundaries
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feel that traditional co-parenting frameworks fall short
This is not a basic communication or co-parenting course.
It is for professionals who already know the work is more complex.
About AJ Gajjar
Parenting & Trauma Consultant | Child-Centered, Attachment-Based Practice
Your guide, AJ Gajjar is a parenting and trauma consultant who has spent nearly two decades supporting long-term outcomes for children who have experienced early adversity, including high-conflict separation, post-separation abuse, and relational trauma.
Her work is grounded in child development, attachment theory, and trauma science, with a particular focus on how children experience harm — and healing — within family systems over time.
AJ works regularly with divorce and parenting coaches, family law professionals, and practitioners in the domestic abuse sector, supporting them to move beyond short-term fixes toward child-centered, attachment-informed approaches that reduce harm and support durable relational safety.
This certification reflects years of observation, professional collaboration, and work alongside families where traditional co-parenting frameworks have proven insufficient — or unsafe — for children.
Program Overview (9 - 10 weeks)
A child-focused, attachment-based framework for professionals supporting families in high-conflict separation and divorce.
Module 1: Context, Capacity & Limits
Understanding which families this work is for, the realities of relational complexity, and how to ground your work through radical acceptance, recognizing moral injury and blocked care, and a clear understanding of the client’s sphere of influence
Module 2: Regulation, Stress & the Nervous System
Exploring self-regulation, stress responses, toxic stress, behavioral expression, and the window of tolerance as they show up in both children and parents navigating high-conflict systems.
Module 3: Trauma, Brain Development & Safety
Examining how trauma impacts the developing brain, long-term functioning, and behavior — including executive functioning challenges, misdiagnosis risks, and the difference between interpersonal and systemic sources of harm — with a focus on recreating safety.
Module 4: The Power of Connection & Attachment
Understanding attachment, connection, and authenticity through the lens of oxytocin, bids for connection, disrupted attachment pathways, and the four irreducible needs of children in high-conflict environments.
Module 5: Parenting Through a Child-Centered Lens
Challenging common myths about co-parenting, safety, and adaptation while exploring parenting styles, felt safety, realistic estrangement versus parental alienation, and resist-refuse dynamics through an attachment-based framework.
Module 6: Creating Felt & Relational Safety
Applying attachment-informed strategies to transitions, routines, environments, sensory regulation, connection, and bridging — with an emphasis on restoring felt safety for children across households.
Module 7: Conversations, Rupture & Repair
Learning how to support empowering conversations, emotional detachment without abandonment, transition challenges, bridging, and the role of rupture and repair in attachment and healing.
Module 8: Complex Dynamics & Sustainability
Addressing lying, alignment, the trauma experienced by protective parents, spoon theory, boundaries, and how to consistently prioritize children’s needs within ongoing conflict and relational complexity.
Format and Investment
• Live online sessions • Engaging discussions and practical learning
• Opportunity for questions, reflection, and integration • Certification awarded upon completion
• Ongoing Monthly Professional Consultation & Integration Calls
(Payment plans available)
The Pilot cohort is kept intentionally small to facilitate more in-depth discussions, fine-tune the program prior to its full launch and provides early participants with exclusive pricing
If this speaks to you, we invite you to join us early.
Future Program Investment: $3,495 CAD
Pilot Cohort Investment: $1,895 CAD
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Is this a parenting certification?
No. This is a professional certification grounded in attachment theory and trauma science. It supports the work you already do with parents — without requiring you to “coach parenting” or adopt a prescriptive model.
Is this within my scope of practice as a coach? Yes. The focus is on understanding child development, trauma responses, and attachment dynamics so that your existing guidance is better informed and more child-protective. Is this appropriate if I already have other certifications? Absolutely. This certification complements existing training by deepening understanding of attachment, trauma, and child-focused formulation in high-conflict systems. Will this teach me how to handle resist-refuse or alignment cases? Yes — through an attachment-based lens that differentiates realistic estrangement from alienation narratives and prioritizes child safety and nervous system capacity. Is this live or self-paced? This is a live, interactive program. The pilot cohort is intentionally contained to allow for meaningful discussion and application. Who should not take this program? This certification is not intended for professionals seeking a quick fix, generic parenting strategies, or a one-size-fits-all co-parenting model. Is there ongoing support after the certification ends? Yes. Graduates will have the option to participate in monthly professional consultation and integration calls to support continued learning, ethical case reflection, and application in complex family systems.
This founding cohort is intentionally small to allow for deep discussion, applied learning, and thoughtful integration. By joining, you’ll gain a child-focused, attachment-based framework to support parents navigating high-conflict separations — without being asked to “coach parenting.”
The program begins the week of March 16, 2026 and runs for 10 weeks, with live sessions held weekly.
All sessions will be recorded for registered participants.
Not ready to commit yet? OR have questions about fit or applicability?